Where Everyone is Free

There’s a place that exists where every single human no matter their rank or station is of equal worth and highest value.  There is a place where things like gender and skin color have no power to separate and subjugate and discriminate.  There is a place where children and the poor and women thrive, where foreigners and the weak and the lowly are given equivalent standing, where there is no need to “fight the patriarchy” or “tax the rich”.  There is no “toxic masculinity” or “me too” movements.  Pro-life and pro-choice are unnecessary monikers and “Black Lives Matter” is obvious because white lives matter, brown lives matter, and all shades of skin matter.  This place is where men and women walk free and can live in the fullness of peace and joy alongside one another, where we don’t compete or abuse or manipulate.

This place was once a progressive destination, a revolutionary awakening for a people who had lived by survival of the fittest and by satisfying the desires of the flesh.  The world was run by the strong and the powerful and the weak and the needy were only objects that could be used for the enjoyment of the elites.  Children were sacrificed at will to material gods and sexual desire, along with women who only existed to give men pleasure and populate cities.  Death and disease were expected companions of humanity and the world burned with chaos and mayhem.

But then, something happened that no one expected.  A man appeared who spoke life to the dead.  He gave His Word and He kept it.  He made the blind see and the lame walk.  He told women they were exactly who they were supposed to be and He set the captives free.  He taught husbands and wives to love and cherish marriage.  He taught parents to care for their children.  He taught that every life is precious.  He showed us that race is only a construct.  He led humanity to a place where they no longer had to be slaves to their lusts.  He made a place for us to reside in a home not made by human hands where nothing gets lost or broken or stolen.  Where we can find healing and hope, where faith, hope, and love exist forever and ever.

But the darkness hates the light, because evil hates being exposed.  And the author of anarchy knew his time was growing short so he caused those who follow him to destroy this man who brought order to a disordered world.  So the man died a torturous death, humiliated and mocked.  But His truth had already gone out.  His light had already overcome the shadows and His life was too powerful for death.  And by defeating sin and death forever, He brought meaning to suffering, goodness to hardship, and became the proof of God’s perfect love.  Suddenly, men didn’t need to hurt women and children.  They instead believed God and learned to love and became protectors of the weak.  Women didn’t need to wish they weren’t female or use their bodies to succeed, but they could rest in who they were made to be, and gladly use their gifts to submit to their Godly authority, and be the cultivators of life and beauty.  Children were suddenly seen and cherished and families could grow and flourish.  Neighbors could love each other no matter their differences, and communities could grow in peace.  Every person could be honored and respected and nations could be free.  The devil’s plan had been severely damaged and the world rejoiced as truth, goodness, and beauty filled the land.  

But the enemy is a crafty deceiver and he keeps so many blinded to the truth.  So people live as though this revolutionary never came to set us free.  And they continue on captive as slaves to their flesh.  They think that building their kingdom here on earth will keep them safe, but little do they know they are digging their own grave.  Little do they know there is a place where they can stop striving.  There is a place where they have a perfect king in a perfect government who will never leave them or forsake them.  So they try to do things the old way.  They regress into death and destruction, helping the prince of this world succeed in his old evil ways.  

But for those who are saved, we can see that there is a place where we can be perfected into everything we need for eternity.  This place is where there is fullness of life.  This place is in Christ.  He is the way, the truth, and the life and in Christ, the old way is gone and the new has come.  In Christ, we can be free of the law of sin and death, and we can live fully in peace with our fellow man.  In this place, we have joy and peace and life abundant.  It’s in this place that men do not use those weaker than themselves for pleasure.  It’s in this place that women know their intrinsic value and do not need to usurp men to find their place in this world and do not need to allow their bodies to be used as currency.  It’s in this place where every child carries the value given by the Father.  It’s in this place where we can freely build lives instead of empires, where the weak are made strong and the forgotten are remembered.  It’s in this place that we remember we are all parts of one body, and we are one in Christ, in this revolutionary ethic of love.  There is no freedom without order, and there is no order without God.  Christ Jesus made us free for freedom’s sake and we should never forget the amazing gift of His life, death, and resurrection that brought the world into modern thinking.  Without this place in Christ, our world would remain shrouded in darkness and disorder.  And in many ways it still is.  But if you want to know where is the place that is perfect and complete, it is in Christ.  Where everyone is free.

Choosing Uncomfortable

We’ve all been there, right smack in the middle of working out or running (the part when it starts to hurt), and thoughts of doubt flood your head. You start questioning why you’re doing this to yourself.

That moment is what I have learned to chase. That moment is when real growth happens.

I married my husband, a pilot in the army, fifteen years ago.  The young, naive me knew there would be hard moments, I mean he left for a combat deployment the day after our honeymoon so I was kind of baptized by fire, but my goal always was to find my way out of the hard as quickly as possible. This strategy left me constantly wishing for the time to pass, regularly feeling negative (think Eeyore) and exhausted by trying to control as much as possible just to have that temporary comfort. 

I realized, years ago, our time here is fleeting (brilliant and profound I know). We all have a choice – love uncomfortable and grow or love comfortable and decay.

There’s a saying in parenting, “some kids learn in the classroom and some kids have to take the field trip.” Welp, I am the adult who always has to take the field trip. I found myself for years saying, “this is just a hard year.” Whether it was a deployment, a new baby, illness, etc. LIFE IS HARD and especially SERVICE LIFE IS HARD! At some point it clicked in my thick head (lightbulb moment), just like the workout that breaks down my muscles, this HARD is a gift. A gift of future strength, a gift of growing stronger in my faith (literally the Holy Spirit is the only way I’ve made it through many days) and the gift of perspective (this life is NOT about our comfort only).

Last year, we found our family was facing a quick but temporary change. My husband was going to be sent to school with the Army that would require he live 700 miles from our current home. While my husband has served in the military on Active status for more than two decades, we’ve had the luxury of living in the same town/home/community that entire time. So this news of school was a shakeup for us to say the least.

Immediately, I was bombarded with questions from friends and family asking if I would stay in our home and live with the kids while he’s away or would we go with him. To me, there was never an option. After my years of running FROM HARD, I had also come to realize, our family is a team with a mission. The mission isn’t to give everyone the most comfortable “stable” life possible. Our mission is to glorify God and continue to grow in order to glorify him more in all we do. Understanding what your purpose is, both individually and as a family, allows you to see something HARD and not question or try to get around it. Side note, that doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t complain (insert my guilty face)

Moving was HARD. We had a few weeks to pack up, make plans, etc. Toteing our paralyzed dog, four kids and two cars, it seemed everything that could have gone wrong on our PCS (Permanent Change of Station) move did. We moved into an old house one fourth the size of our previous home. Living in a new city, we made the decision to homeschool our kids for the year.

To say this year has been HARD is an understatement but oh what we’ve gained.  Friendships I never knew could be so rich so fast, gained skills and knowledge for my husband to better serve, hours upon hours with my sweet children I would not otherwise have, we’ve gotten to see and experience so much. When I looked at this year, all I could see was hard and UNCOMFORTABLE, but I know that’s where the treasure is. 

The Real Secret to Showing Up Your Best

“If you don’t take care of your body where will you live?” -Unknown

43BD5F9F-8DB3-4BCE-A91E-52AADAF5B2FDHave you ever given something so much time and attention that it became a problem? And contrary, have you ever neglected something so greatly it became an even bigger problem? Lets dive into something that could easily fall into either of those categories…lets talk SELF-CARE!

Such a buzzword recently,  self-care can mean so many different things.  I am going to keep it super surface and define it as the habits and things that keep us from looking and feeling a HOT mess.  All this can easily become all-consuming and create unnecessary distraction or a false sense of happiness.  That is NOT our goal.  Likewise, if you have gone years neglecting yourself (for a career, caring for kids, etc.) your lack of self-care I am sure is negatively affecting you. Want to know the secret to keeping it in the middle?  ROUTINE!!  Okay, there are more like three secrets: ROUTINE, SUSTAINABILITY and MOTIVATION.

ROUTINE

It is the secret sauce to life as an adult (generally speaking) and the category of self-care is not exempt. Having a routine that is specific to you and works with your schedule is key. This routine and the habits should be something you start to look forward to, things that not only keep the hot mess wolf away from the door but also leave you feeling refreshed!

Wednesday is the day I typically do weekly “preventative maintenance” (for a lack of a better term). It’s the day I have the least going on and I am at our house most of the day. An example of how I weave this into my day looks like this: I wake up, remove my old nail polish, shower, apply a self tanner after, give my nails a quick coat, pop in a Whitestrip and carry on with my day in yoga pants while everything dries and processes. It typically takes me thirty minutes. I have a daily morning and evening routine involving a few simple, inexpensive products. I also have a routine for health. I workout 3-4 times a week and take some daily supplements. More to come on that in future posts.

SUSTAINABILITY

A self-care routine (be it daily, weekly or monthly) should be sustainable. The goal is to make this a regular thing. The products you use, the money you spend and the time it takes needs to be a part of your financial budget and work with your schedule. We are a military family, unique in a way because we have not had to move very much. But life gets shaken up often and our family dynamic can change on a dime as my husband comes and goes with his job. Jumping in and out of the role of a single parent is hard. The first thing on the list to go for most people would probably be self-care. If the routine is easy enough you will hold on to it, and it will really help you! I chose products that are simple and agree with me. Tan towels, one-step night cream, easy DIY my hair and nail color but all are simple, budget friendly and I can order everything on Amazon. No matter where we live or travel to, how busy I get, or how our budget ebbs or flows… my self-care is SUSTAINABLE!!!

MOTIVATION

No matter what season of life you are in, I encourage you to stop today and evaluate how you are caring for yourself and the ripple effect (positive or negative) that has on your life. Your confidence, ability to focus on those who need you, energy level, overall health – are all things that should MOTIVATE you to incorporate a healthy level of self-care into your life. I love the quote by unknown “If you don’t take care of your body where will you live?” Obviously, there are many other parts and types of self-care, but the little simple things that keep our physical shell up and running well can be easily accomplished when the right motivation is found. At the end of the day, whether it’s a corporate setting, a stay at home mom setting, a volunteer setting… we all want to show up and give our best! This includes looking and feeling your best. What few, small things can you start doing to better care for yourself no matter where you live or what season of life you are growing in? Want to know more about my go-to products? I would love to put together a post!! Let me know in the comments below.

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Live well and FINISH STRONG,

Lisa

 

 

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Here for the Party

Hey Friends, Readers, Y’all…I’m from Georgia so we’ll go with y’all!  Hey Y’all! Okay, so here is the hard part about writing for me, writing about myself. Isn’t it funny how one little thing can unveil so many insecurities?? First things first, I know who I am and why I am here! I am Lisa and I am here to glorify God. I am also a wife and a mommy to four sweet kiddos, and we are a military family. I have been on this earth (now closer to forty years than thirty…that’s scary) and oh how rich the years have been! I have grown to love wife life and mommyhood more than I ever thought I would. The Lord has deeply blessed my family and me, but life is never just lollipops and rainbows.

When my husband and I were first married, nobody expressed to me how hard navigating life with another human would be, let alone adding four more little humans and a military career to the mix!! I have been to hell and back with that man, in the trenches, hard moments for sure. Along the way, I’ve realized the value in giving myself margins (in areas of time, health, self-care, etc) and I have found some incredible joy in talking about and encouraging others in this area.

I’ve revamped the saying “fill your cup first so you can pour into others”, as wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, how about starting with just having a cup and what that looks like! God has graciously given us all so much. Life, for me, is viewed with an eternal perspective. Moving past and outside of myself, I want to do nothing more than glorify Him! The content I share may seem surface, but please know and understand my heart and where I am coming from. Faith first, always! Keeping the little daily logistical things (how a house runs, looks…what you wear after having a baby, I could go on) in check by being proactive is what I love sharing about. I am so thankful you are here and I hope this blesses you!

Lisa